Jakarta, CNBC Indonesia – The issue of husbands supporting their parents, which was linked to Ria Ricis' statement, was finally discussed in Mamah Dedeh's lecture. This Sundanese preacher also commented on the priority of a husband's livelihood when the family's economy is difficult.
“The cause of the breakdown of the household, the husband was not honest about finances, was more loyal to other people than his wife, and secretly gave money to his parents,” wrote Ria Ricis on social media, as quoted InsertLive.
According to Ria Ricis, Teuku Ryan is considered to always prioritize and defend his parents and family, rather than his wife and children.
In her lecture, Mamah Dedeh also said, “Your parents are commanded to be filial, and your wife is also obliged to take care of them. The question is whose affairs should take priority, the wife or the parents?”
“Don't you ever say, 'Who comes first, mother or wife?, the wife sometimes sings, 'Choose your mother or mine?', songsong! Husbands have parents, that's not allowed,” he continued.
However, the woman named Dedeh Rosidah reminded that both wife and parents are parties who must be respected. And when an economic storm arises in the household, the husband's livelihood must actually be prioritized by those closest to him.
“If it's a man, his money is tight, if he's saetic (a little), put his wife first, but pay attention to his parents. But if the wife needs it, the parents need it, there's no harm in sharing a little,” added Mamah Dedeh.
As has often been discussed in classes or seminars regarding financial planning, people who support their parents' lives are often called the sandwich generation. The financial burden of the sandwich generation is generally much greater than that of those who do not have parents.
Apart from being open about finances with your partner, some of the financial management tips below can certainly be used by those who are in the sandwich generation.
Build a strong financial foundation
Don't invest immediately, because your finances are not necessarily safe and protected. Have an emergency fund first, and protect all family members with health insurance or at least BPJS Health.
Investments contain risks, don't let the funds we have invested have to be withdrawn because someone in our family needs medical expenses.
Help those who really need it
In the family of a sandwich generation, it is possible that there are family members who are actually still at a productive age, but choose to depend on the breadwinner and not work.
The family members you should provide full assistance to are those who are in the dependent phase. This could be because they are still underage or elderly.
Establish good communication with family members who are of productive age, invite them to help you in easing the financial burden you bear.
Invest regularly
Choose an investment instrument that you know the ins and outs of well. And do it regularly, with the budget you have determined every month.
It's a good idea if your income increases, also increase the funds that will be set aside for investment.
This is because, the greater the funds set aside, the faster it will be for you to realize your financial goals and become financially independent.
Encourage your dependents to be financially literate
Don't just be literate and understand finances, your family members must also understand this.
It would be very unfortunate if you had to work hard to provide a living and ensure their future, but instead they adopted a consumerist lifestyle which would burden you financially.
If your dependents are financially literate, then your financial burden will feel lighter and the investments you have planned will not be mere wishful thinking.
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